Free Spirit X Empathy Reject.

How can a soul mate ignore & deny y/our LOVE as if you neverever existed? In reality your feelings you felt ~ fell out of loving me.I was saying “Show me what yu got!” A cry from my breaking heart!Not playing any Ego games. What's she representing to the World?*‘Personality * Disorders’ * (Arrangement from Wikipedia)These behavioural patterns in personality disorders are typicallyassociated with substantial disturbances in some behavioural tendenciesof an individual, usually involving several areas of the personality, & arenearly always associated with considerable personal & social disruption.A person's classified as having Personality disorder if their abnormalitiesof behaviour impair their social or occupational functioning. Additionally,personality disorders are inflexible & pervasive across many situations,due in large part to the fact that such behaviour may be ego-syntonic i.e.the patterns are consistent with the ego integrity of the individual) & are,therefore, perceived to be appropriate by that individual. This behaviourcan result in maladaptive coping skills, which may lead to personalproblems that induce extreme anxiety, distress, or depression.These patterns of behaviour typically are recognized in adolescence andthe beginning of adulthood in some unusual instances, childhood. Peoplewith BPD feel emotions more easily more deeply & longer than others doEmotions may repeatedly resurge and persist a long time. Consequently,it may take longer than normal for people with BPD to return to a stableemotional baseline following an intense emotional experience. In MarshaLinehan's view, the sensitivity, intensity, and duration with which peoplewith BPD feel emotions have both positive and negative effects. Peoplewith BPD are often exceptionally enthusiastic, idealistic, joyful and loving.However they may feel overwhelmed by negative emotions experiencingintense grief instead of sadness, shame and humiliation instead of mildembarrassment, rage instead of annoyance, and panic instead ofnervousness. People with BPD. are especially sensitive to feelings ofrejection, criticism, isolation, and perceived failure. Before learning othercoping mechanisms, their efforts to manage or escape from their intensenegative emotions may lead to self-injury or suicidal behaviour. They areoften aware of the intensity of their negative emotional reactions & sincethey cannot regulate them, they shut them down entirely. This can beharmful to people with BPD. since negative emotions alert people to thepresence of a problematic situation and move them to address it.While people with BPD feel joy intensely, they are especially prone todysphoria, or feelings of mental and emotional distress. Zanarini et alrecognized four categories of dysphoria that are typical of this condition:extreme emotions, destructiveness or self-destructiveness, feelingfragmented or lacking identity, and feelings of victimization. Within thesecategories, a BPD diagnosis is strongly associated with a combination ofthree specific states: feeling betrayed, "feeling like hurting myself" andfeeling out of control Since there is great variety in the types of dysphoriaexperienced by people with BPD the amplitude of the distress is a helpfulindicator of borderline personality disorder. Adding to intense emotionspeople with BPD experience emotional liability or changeability. Althoughthe term suggests rapid changes between depression & elation the moodswings in people with this condition actually occur more frequentlybetween anger and anxiety and between depression and anxiety.Borderline personality disorder (BPD) is a personality disorder.The essential features include a pattern of impulsivity and instability ofbehaviours, interpersonal relationships, & self-image. Splitting (thinkingin extremes) Chaos in relationships, markedly disturbed sense of identityIntense or uncontrollable emotional outbursts, anger, rage & depression.The pattern is present by early adulthood and occurs across a variety ofsituations & contexts. Symptoms include intense fears of abandonment,extreme anger, and irritability, the reason for which others have difficultyunderstanding People with BPD often engage in idealization/devaluationof others altering between high positive regard & great disappointmentSelf-harm, suicidal behaviour, substance abuse are common. The mostdistinguishing symptoms of BPD are marked sensitivity to rejection andthoughts and fears of possible abandonment. Overall, the features ofBPD. include unusually intense sensitivity in relationships with others,difficulty regulating emotions, and impulsivity. Other symptoms mayinclude feeling unsure of one's personal identity, morals, and values,having paranoid thoughts when feeling stressed, & severe dissociation.Behaviour: Impulsive behaviour is common, including substance oralcohol abuse, eating disorders, unprotected sex or indiscriminate sexwith multiple partners, reckless spending, and reckless driving. Impulsivebehaviour may also include leaving jobs or relationships, running away,and self-injury. People with BPD act impulsively because it gives themimmediate relief from their emotional pain. However, in the long term,people with BPD suffer increased pain from the shame and guilt thatfollow such actions. A cycle often begins in which people with BPD feelemotional pain, engage in impulsive behaviour to relieve that pain, feelshame and guilt over their actions, feel emotional pain from the shameand guilt, and then experience stronger urges to engage in impulsivebehaviour to relieve the new pain. As time goes on, impulsive behaviourmay become an automatic response to emotional pain.Interpersonal relationships: People with BPD can be very sensitiveto the way others treat them, by feeling intense joy and gratitude atperceived expressions of kindness, and intense sadness or anger atperceived criticism or hurtfulness. Their feelings about others often shiftfrom admiration or love to anger or dislike after a disappointment, aperceived threat of losing someone, or a perceived loss of esteem inthe eyes of someone they value. This phenomenon, sometimes calledsplitting, includes a shift from idealizing others to devaluing them.Combined with mood disturbances, idealization and devaluation canundermine relationships with family, friends, and co-workers. Self-imagecan also change rapidly from healthy to unhealthy While strongly desiringintimacy, people with BPD tend toward insecure, avoidant or ambivalent,or fearfully preoccupied attachment patterns in relationships, & they oftenview the world as dangerous and malevolent. BPD, like other personalitydisorders, is linked to increased levels of chronic stress and conflict inromantic relationships, less satisfaction on the part of romantic partners.Sense of self: People with BPD tend to have trouble seeing a clearpicture of their identity. In particular, they tend to have difficulty knowingwhat they value, believe, prefer, and enjoy. They are often unsure abouttheir long-term goals for relationships & jobs. This difficulty with knowingwho they are and what they value can cause people with BPDto experience feeling "empty" and "lost". Psychopathy is a personalitydisorder partly characterized by antisocial & aggressive behaviours, aswell as emotional and interpersonal deficits including shallow emotionsand a lack of remorse and empathy. One diagnostic criterion ofnarcissistic personality disorder is a lack of empathy, an unwillingnessor inability to recognize or identify with the feelings and needs of others.Characteristics of schizoid personality disorder include emotionalcoldness, detachment and impaired affect corresponding withan inability to be empathetic and sensitive towards others.